All That Glitters Is Not Gold – By Rachel

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I have taken on a guest writer. Rachel Beasley. She writes poetically and is planning her own wedding (with the help of moi) for next year. Here is the first of her instalments


I find people fascinating. Like really fascinating. I’m the girl that could sit outside a coffee shop in the freezing cold watching the world go by just for fun. I often find myself staring at people. It’s not in an offensive way, it’s purely because I think they are amazing. Perhaps it’s your perfectly put together outfit, perhaps a striking feature like your eyes or lips or perhaps just because you look like one of those people I would like to be one day. A well rounded perfectly good adult!

At the age of 25 I feel like I should be one of these well rounded perfectly good adults. At the very least I now live 200 odd miles away from my parents, I have a full-time job and I’m planning my summer 2012 wedding. But whilst on the outside it looks like I’ve got my boxes checked, on the inside I’m peddling very fast to keep it all even slightly together.

Phoebe wrote a post about flaws last week and it got me thinking about mine. I think my biggest flaw would be that I am easily distracted. I could be in the middle of doing something but another thing catches my eye and that’s it, BAM, over. Not a very well rounded perfectly good adult character trait to have perhaps? 

But what’s this got to do with weddings…

Weddings are all about people. It’s all about pretty ideas and this idea of the perfect day. So on first glance I should be in my element – watching other people, following them (and not just on Twitter) and being distracted by pretty things. Instead I find it very difficult to make a decision and currently I’m not really getting anything done.

Whilst I adore the world of wedding blogs and wedding magazines, the majority of them can make life difficult for any normal planning bride. So from one disorganised bride to (many?) others, please just remember one thing:

Your wedding day will be exactly what you want it to be.

Fascinations, distractions, last-minute decisions, well planned choices – they will all combine to make your day exactly how you wanted it to be. Does it matter if it rains? Does it matter if you forget to tie ribbons to the chairs? Or fairy lights to the ceiling?

Probably not. 

And whilst at the beginning of our engagement my head was brimming with ideas and I didn’t think I needed any help, believe me you could always use help. This isn’t an advert, but speak to a wedding planner. Or a friend/family member who’s done this all before. And when your future husband/wife looks you in the eye and says “do we really need that”, be prepared to say “no, no we don’t.”

Unless it sparkles. In which case, the answer is always yes.

                                                                                 – Rachel 

Did you enjoy? Rachel will be making a weekly appearance on the blog. She will bring a little more coherently put charm to these stripey pages.

A Year In The Life Of | uk wedding blog

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It has been just over a year since I stood at the altar and said I do. After we came back from our short honeymoon we were bombarded with the how’s married life? What a stupid question. Its brilliant. You were there a week ago when it happened…what do you think would have changed? Am I not smiling enough now? Married life really is wonderful. Michael turned to me the day after our wedding and he said he felt a new loyalty towards me, that we were our own team now. I felt it too, its something that you can’t describe, and something that I hadn’t felt whilst he was my fiancé. It was warm and fuzzy though. So this is how our year progressed…Read More

{One Photo Friday}

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Blogger has been playing up and not publishing posts when it is meant to! Grrr.

I mentioned earlier that I am now in the mood for some snow. Please? Not too much though, as Super Glossy has her wedding in a couple of weeks. Just a little smattering of powder would be nice. Do you think we will have a white Christmas? 


What film does this remind you of? Answers in the comments box.

I am also in the midst of organising a tweet up. I think. It shan’t be a soiree or a ring bash. Just a little compact tweet up. 

Flawed | uk wedding blog

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“Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one”  – Confucius

What is your greatest flaw? We all have them.

Whilst growing up, many people will tell you what’s right with you, and, what’s wrong with you. Whether you are socially acceptable, or whether you have an “approach with caution” sign on your head.

I think it is important to take note of what your flaws may be in order to improve yourself. I know my greatest flaw. I do it daily. I do it without realising it. I do it on the phone. I do it through text. I have been told it over and over and over again. I whine. A lot.

It is the best thing in life to find someone who accepts all of your flaws, because to them, they are not flaws at all. To them, they are what makes you unique. And are they truly flaws if that’s what makes them love you?

We are all perfectly flawed. Don’t try and hide them.


Pout In The Park | uk wedding blog

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Either it’s sad that Made In Chelsea has ended, or it’s sad that I care? Not sure. 

I have taken a lot from the programme:

♥ A well timed pout speaks more than words

♥ Champagne can be consumed for breakfast without dependency connotations

♥ A union jack blazer will always look cool

♥ Adding -licious on to your name makes you sound like a brand of apple.  I.e Phoebelicious 

♥ Slicked back hair does not win you the girl of your dreams. 

♥ Awkward silences makes everyone feel uncomfortable. (Perhaps throw a pout in)

♥ A bridge is a great meeting place 

For the park…


For the party 



Her headpiece is from here, took my a while to track it down.

Are you sad its over? Did you ever care? 

p.s – I’m calling it now. 1920s shall be big in 2012. 

p.p.s – I also watched University Challenge last night, my television viewing isn’t totally vacuous. 

My Weekend | uk wedding blog

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It was an eventful weekend as there was a birthday and an anniversary. Our very first wedding anniversary. A whole year since this…

On Friday, I picked up my new glasses

and fell in love with hydrangeas all over again

I held a small dinner party and relaxed after with white hot chocolate Miller was bought for his birthday.

I am awaiting the photos from the shoot we did..the suspense is killing me.


We went out for a lovely dinner on Sunday, and had a wonderful seat near the kitchen. They were behind glass, like goldfish. And I don’t like Anthurium.

What did you do?
Did you wear this dress?

House of Diego

And have your hair like this?


Perhaps whilst reading this?


No? Why not!?

(I should really get an actual camera if I keep insisting on putting up photos…)

DIY – Cinnamon Candles

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I have made a guest appearance on Confetti. I know right? Here are some more lovely photos by the wonderful Tux and Tales. I emailed her with my vision…and voilà, she made it look even better. 

DIY Cinnamon Candles 

I heart cinnamon. I love love love the taste and smell. Especially when is has been steeping in mulled wine. 

Here’s a way to use cinnamon sticks at your wedding, and feathers. Can’t forget the feathers. They look and smell lovely nestled amongst foliage on mantle pieces or on reception tables.

You will need:
  • Candle
  • Whole cinnamon sticks
  • Rubber band
  • Ribbon/Rafia/Twine
Attach the rubber band around the candle and slot in the whole cinnamon sticks until the candle is covered, place ribbon or twine around the candle to cover up the band and it’s done! 

One Photo Friday

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I am off to a black tie event…in my head I shall be wearing this Valentino dress. In reality, I shan’t. Sigh. 

You can find me on the delicious Florence Finds today – talking about coq. 

I hope you all enjoy a wonderful roaring bonfire and plenty of fireworks. Report back on Monday?