I have had a fair few entries so I will try and tackle as many as possible! I also am trying to make them short and concise but if you want more information, feel free to email! Today’s question is:
“After booking the venue, what comes next?”
Set your budget, then consider what is most important to you and your fiancé. If you want a Vera Wang you may not be able to afford gold leaf roses (why would you, but you get my point). You have to choose what is most important to you. If you want to blow most of your budget on a fantastic photographer and only spend £400 on a wedding dress then do it. Don’t compare your weddings to others, do what’s right for you and your other half.
At this point, you will also have some (even if its microscopic) idea of what overall look/feel you want for your day. Whether its Victorian Gothic or cowboy themed, direction is good. You can then start looking at certain suppliers that will help achieve your look. From stationers to bakers, there really is something out there for every kind of wedding.
Read magazines, read blogs, read books. Gather your inspiration and get ready for next weeks question…
(today is our 6 year anniversary, you know, the one of our first date, although I think its a shame this number means nothing now that we are married we are going to be celebrating…any excuse!)
Slowly, silently, now the moon
Walks the night in her silver shoon;
This way, and that, she peers, and sees
Silver fruit upon silver trees;
One by one the casements catch
Her beams beneath the silvery thatch;
Couched in his kennel, like a log,
With paws of silver sleeps the dog;
From their shadowy cote the white breasts peep
Of doves in silver feathered sleep
A harvest mouse goes scampering by,
With silver claws, and silver eye;
And moveless fish in the water gleam,
By silver reeds in a silver stream.
-Walter de la Mere
Something in this mood-board is £11.5k and I would like it for Christmas. Can you guess what? I will give you a clue, it’s not the Weimaraner (although I wouldn’t say no).
I am going to be doing a whole week dedicated to flowers so get in touch if you are a florist. firstname.lastname@example.org – cake and stationery week went down tremendously well so get involved!
If you haven’t yet read this post by Anna and this post by Laura the please do. Both for Mental Health Awareness. Brave posts by brave ladies.
J’adore 1950s Dior…
I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. Tonight we are having a pizza & DVD session then tomorrow I have 3 guests coming over for x-factor frolics. One of them is a dog. I hope it helps convince Michael. You know me, I will keep you updated via twitter.
These are very me. I hope that they are very you. I am in love with Pomp and Plumage.
Here’s their website (there are also some beauuttiful hairpieces). I think that they are so reasonably priced and something a little different for your wedding day. One Photo Friday coming up later on.
Thank you for all of the question submissions, who ever entered the “will you be making a time travelling machine so we can go back and plan my wedding?” question, I am flattered and I am working on it, I promise. This is the question I have chosen to kick us off…
“I have just got engaged, where do I start?”
Firstly decide on your timescale, how long would you like to be engaged? How long would it take to save so you can comfortably pay for a wedding? How long would it take you to plan your dream day?
After deciding that then I suggest that the next big thing is the venue. The venue will dictate a lot more than you think, from the actual date of your wedding, how many people you can have at your ceremony or reception to what time you actually get married. After choosing the venue you will have a better idea of your budget and costs. You will also know if you’ll be having your ceremony in a church or registry office which leads on to separate planning paths in itself.
It is daunting taking the first step as you then realise what you have to do. This is where a planner would help greatly and relieve you of stress. You can usually hire a planner at anytime in your planning process, it’s nice knowing there is someone there if it gets too much. They will also help you stay within your budget and offer various discounts with suppliers (hint: Miller Weddings). If you don’t want to relinquish control to a planner then write lists, lots of lists, keep all your invoices, plans, quotes organised…it helps down the line when its 3 months to go and you are clarifying bookings.
I would then suggest to start collating your ideas, where ever you find inspiration, make note. If you can get a mood-board together to take you suppliers they will have a better idea of your overall theme a lot quicker than an over-zealous bride explaining all of her plans in 10 seconds. (Again Miller Weddings has a discount on mood-boards at the moment, all boards are £25, just use the contact form, shameless plug)
Enjoy it. It really is an amazing time. Till next Wednesday…
Do you have anything to add? Any tips, any bits of advice?
…here’s the song…
And here is the mood board. I have to say, I am a little in love with it. I would happily receive anything off of it as a gift.
Don’t forget to email in your planning queries mentioned in this post.
I spent most of last night watching reality TV such as Made in Chelsea, Big Brother and TOWIE, I painted my nails various colours and ate a lot of chocolate biscuits. I quaffed spiced rhubarb and apple cider and wondered who was behind Florence Finds and @TheWeddingCritters. Do you know they are? Will you divulge? I will repay you…
A new feature. New is good. You can email, tweet, DM, carrier pigeon over your planning questions, musings, theories etc and they will be answered on the blog every Wednesday.
It can be anonymous, it can be about anything, no planning stone left unturned and it’s nice to share problems and tips. Sharing is caring. So who will be first up on Wednesday?
The only thing I didn’t like about wedding planning was other people; other people telling me what to do, impressing their opinions on me, other people not RSVPing and other people generally being rude.
I think we all know who this is directed at? Hello husband…
Do you think that THE Jack Bauer took this? That would be amazing.
I am still drawing up my media pack to send out to those that would be interested in placing an advert with So You’re Getting Married. Over the space of a year page-views were slowly increasing till about four months ago. Stats doubled, unique visitors increased and feedback has been positive (bar that one email, ha!). Closing September 2011, page-views are at an all time high.
Going forward, I can only see the readership increasing as more effort and time is devoted to my little corner of the internet. Would you like to be involved?
You can express an interest now by emailing email@example.com.
I look forward to hearing from you!
So I have my first bit of hate mail. I don’t realllly understand why. But they bothered to spend the time writing it, so I thought I would share it with you…I have lifted it straight up for you to enjoy spelling and grammar also.
I just wanted to email you and tell you that I think you should maybe reconsider how you come accross in your blog. Firstly, how can someone be so arrogant to think that people want to read the pretentious crap that you put on your pages? You only blog about high-end things, that most brides or people in general cant afford but I am so glad you can. Secondly, what is the point? You dont have a niche, you arent a big blogger, you dont focus on anything in particular so really, I cant imagine anyone reads it other than to laugh at you.
I thought it was better that I sent it annonymously because I thought someone should say something as no one should waste their time on something they arent good at. I dont want to be mean but you come accross as arrogant, maybe you are in real life, if so I feel sorry for you, if not, why pretend to be?
Have a nice week.
So there you go. What I don’t understand is that they have evidently taken the time to read my “pretentious” blog, and for this, I thank them. See You Next Tuesday.