So You Want a Feminist Wedding

By Heather

As feminists, it is important to my fiancé and I that our wedding reflects the mutual love and respect we have for one another as equals.  Otherwise put, we’re in the process of planning a feminist wedding!

Now a lot goes into this, so I’m dedicating the next couple posts to the topic.  This first post will help answer the question, “What is a feminist wedding?”

But before we can begin to discuss what a feminist wedding might look like, it is important to first understand what feminism is!

Feminism is simply defined as “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.” 

So basically, if you don’t hold the belief that one sex is inherently “better,” or more deserving of rights and opportunities than the others, then welcome to the club!

Now what does a feminist wedding look like?  Well the answer will vary from one person to another, but that’s the beauty of feminism: the freedom of choice!  I personally believe that weddings should be a time to honor and celebrate the union of two individuals who love, honor, and respect each other as equals.

Unfortunately, weddings are built on a solid foundation of sexist traditions that favor male dominance, and consequently, female subservience.  While they’ve come a long way from a ceremonial transferal of ownership from the bride’s father to her husband-to-be, the traditions themselves haven’t changed much over the years.

How am I making my wedding more feminist friendly?  By tweaking or replacing some of the traditions with cringe-worthy origins, and finding a balance that suits my fiancé and I.

It is important to emphasize that you don’t have to get rid of EVERY wedding tradition with less-than-progressive origins in order to have a feminist wedding.

In my next post, I’m going to shed some light on the origins of some of the most common wedding traditions and provide you with some feminist alternatives!

In the meantime, what are some ways you’re making your wedding more feminist-friendly?