a very pretty rustic DIY wedding | uk wedding blog

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Good morning! Today we have the gorgeous wedding of Cat, who submitted her wedding after reading the blog during her planning last year. I love how much detail she goes in to about her planning, I am sure there are lots of tips and advice most brides can take from her. I hope you had a lovely bank holiday weekend and you’re easing back in to work slowly!

photography | Paul Joseph Photography 

Ronald Joyce, Romy; TK Maxx/ Personalised Converse
I have been planning my wedding since I was around 10 years old – I had a wedding box that I’d collected cuttings and little bits along the way. Imagine Monica in friends and you’ve pretty much got me.

The one thing I had no idea on was the dress. I’d never allowed myself to imagine that part – I wasn’t sure it’d ever happy so I didn’t want to ever feel disappointed. I went with one of my Maid of Honors for my first appointment and tried on everything – all shapes/colours & styles! I figured it was the only way to find what suited.

I found ‘my’ dress on a trip with my mum – it was the first dress I tried on in a shop and to be honest, if I hadn’t of tried on all shapes I wouldn’t of even considered it as I thought the style would be hideous on my wide hips but I was so wrong – I felt amazing in it!

I had one more trip with some more bridesmaids and at this point, every dress I tried on was compared back to ‘the’ dress so I knew – it was the one for me!

To make my dress extra special I had a blue heart sewn inside – my brother passed away when I was young and I really wanted to have him there on such a special day and this was the perfect way. We used an old pair of jeans and took the back pocket off to create a heart. It was a really special moment seeing that on the morning of the day, knowing he was there to celebrate with us all.

I teamed the dress with a beautiful pair of shoes that were found on TK Maxx for a bargain! I knew I wouldn’t be in heels for much of the day to be honest so I didn’t want to spend too much. The real stars were my personalised converse – these were what I wanted all along and I still love wearing them!

Bride’s hair accessories/veil: Because of the embellishment on the dress and the detailing on the back, I didn’t really do accessories – I had a veil which was my something borrowed.

I was very lucky that two of my family friends are my hair dressers and I wouldn’t of trusted anyone else on such a big day. They were awesome and in the end had 11 people to do – including themselves as they were of course guests.

I’m quite the plane Jane by nature so decided to do my own make-up. I had a few trials here and there but I always came out feeling a bit ‘made up’ which wasn’t how I wanted to feel on my day. So, off I went to Selfridges with my make-up budget and bought myself some treats that now I can keep and every now and then, spruce myself up!
The perfume: I adore Jo Malone so it was inevitable I was going here for my wedding scent. I booked in for the bridal consultation which was just lovely and settled on Wood Sage & Sea Salt with Mimosa & Cardamon body crème – it was heavenly!

Owen House Wedding Barn, Cheshire
We only viewed 3 venues in total and OHWB was our second. Our first viewing was at Chester Zoo which would have been awesome but the venue didn’t ‘feel’ right when we were there. Upon arriving at OHWB I think we both knew there and then it was the one but we were sensible and viewed another just in case, but no, OHWB was ‘THE ONE’. We knew it was nothing like anything we’d seen before and would fit our style and plans for our day perfectly. It helped also that Dan & Vanessa who own the venue are awesome people too.

Definitely – rustic/chalkboard – it was very much a DIY wedding! Along with help from the wedding party, there were handmade signs; hundreds of jam jars and even our very own giant letters – a labour of love from me and my pops – nails guns/radio arm saws were used in the making! I took complete pride in spending many a weekend/evening creating chalk boards/ the table plan etc.

Scott isn’t much of a suit kinda guy – he doesn’t need to wear one for work so this could’ve been quite the challenge.  We were recommended Beggars Run by one of my bridesmaids (who also married in 2016) so off went to see what was what. We turned up at a pub in London and were shown up the back steps to a little studio space. It was all quite random however Cian was totally awesome and his suits were amazing. The quality was excellent and he really had an eye for detail.

Taking a little moment at the end of the aisle before walking down – something our caterer said to me before I walked in was to just stop and take it all in. I did and I can remember it so vividly now. I’ve been planning my wedding since I was 10yrs only and never thought it would happen so I absolutely relished in standing there, with all of our loved ones being the bride – FINALLY! It was so overwhelming to see everyone there to share such a wonderful moment in my life and to be so so happy for us!

If I’m cheeky, another moment was when we headed out, just the 2 of us with Paul & Kelly to have our mini photoshoot alone. It was so lovely to have a little time together away from all the excitement of the day – and the photos definitely showed that!

Paul & Kelly from Paul Joseph Photpgraphy
We met Paul & Kelly at an open day at OHWB and I was already familiar with their work having seen their blog of a wedding they’d shot there in the previous year (it was a wedding I’d lusted after)!

They were so lovely that day – they weren’t pushy at all. They let us browse their photos, with no questioning or grilling (which we found quite a lot with photographers at wedding shows) and then we went back for a chat.

After a skype call in our pj’s I think we both knew they’d be perfect for us – they just seemed to get us and as cheesy as that may sound, we did have that moment and I think you’ll agree from our photos that they really did get us. We had a few skype calls along the way and by the time the wedding came along, it didn’t feel like they were our photographers, it felt like they were a part of our day as much as anyone else that was there.

Local North Wales florist, The Flower Garden
I knew what I wanted flower wise and to be honest, wasn’t willing to spend all that much – I had a budget in mind and decided that was that. I decided to stay local for the flowers from a florist in North Wales and a lovely friend travelling over on the morning brought them with her which saved us a fortune!

I knew all along that I wanted a naked cake but it was merely there for decoration as we were having a desert table & Snugburys ice cream as the real star of the show. I’d asked bridesmaid’s mother in law to help us out and she absolutely knocked it out of the park – it was absolutely stunning and tasted amazing! The top layer had cherry jam as it’s Scott favourite !

 

I knew exactly what I wanted for my bridesmaids and shopped around for some affordable alternatives and came across The Dainty Yard being recommended on a wedding forum. The dresses were beautiful and suited all of my bridesmaids perfectly. I decided I wanted them all the same during the day but come evening, they were free to switch it up and have a different style – as if they had a different dress! They loved it!

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

We knew we wanted a live band having been to a few weddings where it made all the difference but we had some difficulty in finding one. We stumbled across Hudson after some late night googling and they were awesome. The joined us during the day for some background music following the ceremony then really got us going in the evening. That was our main criteria – we really wanted people to be up and dancing in the evening which was exactly what we got.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

As I mentioned, I’ve been planning my wedding since I was 10 and one of my clippings was of water bungalows and that is exactly what I wanted. Our issue was that we’re not really beach people – not for an entire holiday anyway. So after a bit of research, we decided upon Sri Lanka & The Maldives and it was perfect. Sri Lanka is an incredible country with so much culture & activities to keep you going for a good while. The Maldives provided the perfect r’n’r after such a full on trip.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Cat + Scott’s rustic wedding at Owen House wedding Barn in Cheshire by Paul Joseph Photography.

Enjoy it – every single bit of it! From the planning to the day there are so many moments which I will cherish for the rest of my life. The love & support I felt from friends and family was really quite overwhelming throughout the whole process – from crafting weekends, to listening to my endless rambles about my excitement! It’s quite difficult to put in to words the feeling it gives you to know that so many people are there for ‘you’!

Another really important point is to be you – do what makes you (as a couple obviously) happy! We were very strict from day one that this was going to be ‘our day’ and that it was. Some may think it’s harsh, but we wanted the day to be a certain way for ‘us’. We tried where we could to include people in our planning, but ultimately, the final decision was ours and we honestly did nothing to please anyone else! That may sound harsh, but I waited 20 years for the bloody day!

Where did you find your inspiration?: Pinterest & blogs (like SYGM) looking at real weddings.