Good evening, this is a message from the ghost of Bridezilla’s past!
As I write this, it’s Tuesday 8th November and I’m just tying up loose ends with our wedding preparation. I’m packing all of our décor into boxes ready to load into the boot of my car, and I’m ticking off those last minute just-in-case purchases.
As you read this, it’s Friday 11th November, and I’d like to hope I’m tucked away in my hotel room with my bridesmaids enjoying a glass or five of Prosecco, and taking time to relax ahead of our wedding day TOMORROW!
This past week, I’ve been reflecting on the last two years of planning and how it’s come to shape our day. I must say, having this blog as an outlet to share snippets of our plans has been amazing. I’m printing all of my blog posts off to keep in my wedding planning scrapbook, so that one day, I can look back and have a giggle at how stressed I was that there was a slight crease in the bridesmaids dresses, or choosing what colour to paint our tea light holders.
Planning a wedding is a lot of pressure, particularly for an anxious person like me, but I know that next week, when I’m lying on my sun lounger in the Maldives, all that will matter is that my husband is beside me, and that everyone had a nice time and partied the night away with ALL of the booze and cheese.
This is a picture of me and my Grandma, on our cocktail making course a couple of weeks ago! I wanted to go out with all of mine and Rob’s family members (ladies only, obvs!) so we had some lunch and cocktails, and they all got to know each other a little bit better. Although my Mum and Rob’s Mum have met loads of times, my Mum had never met any of his aunties, so it was a nice occasion for everyone to have a laugh and a few drinks and get to know faces before the wedding.
The highlight of wedding planning for me was definitely trying on dresses. It’s a bit surreal, because I’m pretty sure that a majority of bride’s have never tried on a wedding dress prior to planning for their wedding, and when you look at yourself in the mirror for the first time, it’s a whole mix of “WOW this is pretty and expensive and I must not break it” combined with feeling like you’re in fancy dress. It’s… surreal. And I would try on wedding dresses every weekend for the rest of my life if I could.
The worst part for me was planning the music. Fortunately, Rob and I like the same things, but we did get a lot of ~outsider opinion~ on what kind of music we should be having. My Dad is really into his motown and made it very clear that there HAD to be a bit of Marvin Gaye on the playlist. Which is fine, I like a bit of motown too. But a lot of my family members love the cheesy 90s, Grease megamix, oops-upside-your-head, Take That medley kind of stuff. And I hate it. Who knows if they’ll request it on the day, but I can’t imagine our DJ has it in his playlist anyway, so… you win some, you lose some 😉
I think things really hit home for me when I got home last weekend and our neighbours had decorated the pontoon and our boat with balloons and banners (see above!). It really brought a tear to my eye and it’s so nice to see people are genuinely happy for us.
My advice for future brides would be to stay organised. There are so many small details that creep upon you, if it wasn’t for all of the lists and notes I kept, I probably would have forgotten something. I printed off a yearly calendar and wrote in on each month/day what I needed to have planned by then, i.e. send out invitations, meet with registrar and get my ring cleaned, right down to those final details, and it’s the best thing I ever did. I kept it in my handbag at all times, and got a huge kick out of ticking things off as I’d completed them.
I’ll definitely be updating you with wedding pictures and sharing details from our Big Day, but for now, this is my last official post as a Bride-to-Be! I’ll see you on the other side…