a wedding starting with a tea ceremony in London and ending with a wedding in texas | uk wedding blog

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This wedding is exceptionally special. Annie and Rich intertwined their families rich cultures and backgrounds on their wedding day(s) so that everyone was involved and acknowledged. Annie is one of the happiest, smiliest brides I’ve blogged and I really enjoyed going through the images of their portrait shoot around London. And really, who wouldn’t want two weddings!

photography by Kirsty Bowen at This and That Photography


Rich is from a village in England called Barkway. I (Annie) have a mother from Spain, a father from Hong Kong, was born in England but grew up in Texas and have lived in London for the last 10 years. It seems complicated, but it’s really fun. We invited all of our friends and family to Austin, Texas for our wedding but a few people would have been excluded – ie maternal Granny and some godparents for not being able to travel. We did not want to leave anyone out, so we decided to precede our celebrations with an intimate mini-wedding in Barkway. As it was mainly family, we wanted to reflect all the different cultures that Rich and I now represented together. So we incorporated English, Spanish, Chinese and Texan touches.

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The bride wore a traditional red and gold Chinese dress called a cheongsam. Groom wore his morning suit (trousers from his late grandfather), with a special red waistcoat handmade by his brother’s wife and a yellow tie (as red and yellow are traditional Chinese colours) and new cufflinks (bride’s wedding present to the groom where his initials were inscribed on one side and the bride’s initials on the other side).

Shoes – Barefoot for the tea ceremony. Cowboy boot wellies on the walk to the church from the house (on way to ceremony) then mini-ankle-cowboy boots for the ceremony and reception, inscribed with ‘I DO’ on the bottoms of the soles

Dress: Tea ceremony dress described above.

Ceremony and reception – I wore a Maggie Sottero, Bronwyn (WITHOUT the lace overlay) gold Vogue satin dress. I had a lace bolero jacket to wear on top, lace purchased in Paris and handmade by a dressmaker in London.

NOTE: The full Maggie Sottero Bronwyn with full lace overlay was worn at the Texas wedding months later

Bride’s hair accessories/veil – A rhinestone headband, hair half up/half down, wavy and no veil

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Groomsmen’s outfits/accessories – Best man and a couple ushers were present, wearing their own morning suits

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Bridal bouquet and Groom’s boutonniere were made and provided by The Urban Flower Co. in Crouch End, North London. Beautiful, natural blush coloured roses with a lot of greenery, including mint, rosemary and thyme, wrapped with Spanish moss.

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Following the tea ceremony, we had a CofE wedding service at St. Mary Magdalene Church in Barkway, the church in Rich’s village where he grew up. His father was the church warden and his mother rings the church bells. His paternal Granny and Grandpa are buried outside. We knelt on Granny and Grandpa’s knitted cushions during the service. Rich’s childhood vicar, and friend of the family, led the service. One of the readings in the ceremony was read in both Spanish and English to accommodate my Spanish family who were there.

The reception was held in Rich’s family home – The Red House. We served Spanish tapas to start and Rich’s favourite – lasagne as the main. We set up tables throughout the house for people to eat either sitting or standing. There were only 30 of us in total.

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The speeches. Rich’s father gave a beautiful speech to welcome everyone into his home, and my mom translated it into Spanish. The two of them spoke to everyone and it ended up being very comical because my mom lost track of whether she was speaking in English or Spanish a few times. The speeches were also very emotional. For my mom, this was the first time she was seeing her Spanish family after a couple tragic years. For Rich, who gave a groom’s speech, he reflected a lot on the absence of his paternal grandfather, who was a great influence on him. He was wearing his grandfather’s trousers, tie pin and our wedding bands were melted down from his old watch chain. It was a very teary and beautiful moment to hear Rich speak so candidly in front of our very closest family members and friends.

Everything about the day felt right. We tried to reflect every aspect of our own families in this room, and embrace everything about us that made us who we were.

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Real honeymoon was scheduled the following year, we went to the Andaman Islands in Oct 2014 and had the most idyllic holiday possible!

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I was completely reassured when I spoke to Kirsty. From the onset, she understood exactly what we were trying to achieve on our wedding day. She made me feel like the only bride in her life, even though I knew that she was working on multiple weddings. It was a special experience.

This & That photographed both our wedding day as well as a special London shoot. Booking a few hours on the morning after our ceremony, we set off to some of our favourite locations around London, some iconic and some personal, taking photos in between. Some of our hot spots included the Houses of Parliament, a red double decker bus, Trafalgar Square, Jubilee Bridge, Brick Lane (where we bumped into Russell Brand), Columbia Flower Market and Arsenal Stadium (where they feature a giant A and R for Arsenal / Annie and Rich). Ideal! Kirsty adapted to every environment naturally. We took risky shots in the middle of the road, off-the-cuff shots as we were walking through bustling streets and meeting strangers, creative shots down little pockets of real London and of course, classic shots that we will treasure forever.

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It means a lot more when your ideas reflect everything you and your partner are. Make it personal to you, the décor, the readings, the music, the cake, the food, etc… It makes a big difference and your guests will feel it.

Attention to detail – it’s how you differentiate your wedding from anyone else’s. Engage your audience through all the details.

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