Hello you lovely lot! I hope your weekend was wonderful? Mine was full of domestic type errands; choosing curtains, bathrooms and finishing off present buying. On Saturday evening I received an email from a lovely reader asking me whether it really is possible to achieve the wedding she had in her head or if her expectations need to be lowered. Tricky right?
I will tell you now that wedding perfection is not possible. In my head, I had the most magical wedding, it was THE best day ever. However it was not perfect (well it was to me, kinda). I wish I had hired a videographer, the venue put up Christmas decorations when I distinctly asked for there to be none in the room we were having our wedding breakfast, I wanted more flowers, and the best man’s suit didn’t fit properly. Pinterest wasn’t a thing when I was planning my wedding though, wedding blogs hadn’t really taken off and the mags were uninspired but I trawled through them nonetheless.
I think a lot of brides see pinterest perfect weddings/ bloggable weddings (we’ve been through this) and think that if theirs doesn’t compare then the day is a wash out which is just not true. You are marrying your lobster, your soul-mate, your best friend. Don’t lose sight of that.
It is totally possible to achieve the wedding you have in your head, as long as what you are dreaming of isn’t completely unrealistic and you appreciate that it will not be perfect. A family filled country wedding full of festoon lighting and bunting where everyone laughs in to the small hours is of course achievable. A Downton style high end country affair with a black tie dress code (yes please) is totally achievable. Unicorn drawn crystal carriages could be a push but achievable (and pricey).
Take the stress off yourself and just plan a day that is true to you and that you’ll enjoy. You will remember and treasure it for the rest of your life no matter how you celebrate it. You will see other weddings and think “oh I would have loved that” but their day was not perfect, you never see behind the scenes of someone’s wedding, only the finished polished result and wedding blogs are totally to blame for this. Sorry. If you are willing to spend time and effort (and money) then you can achieve any wedding style you dream of but it won’t be perfect.
You should just all go and read what Kat wrote about the same topic this morning. There is a lot less waffle and more to the point. Wedding perfection is a lie, but that is totally OK. We also both mention unicorns. (I didn’t read Kat’s post in full just in case I accidentally took ideas but it ended up basically the same).