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facebook-profile-picture By Phoebe

I don’t often blog American weddings. I am unsure why. I always feel that they may be something we can never have, slightly untouchable, but in the best possible way. They are aspirational. I contacted Hannah Thomson after seeing Pamela Love‘s and Matthew Nelson’s wedding asking if I could blog it. Though Pamela was a very different bride to myself, her wedding was effortlessly cool and laid back, I want it. I want her wedding, and you are about to see why.

All photography credits to Hannah Thomson and Vogue.com



Pamela preparing her own flowers



The wedding cake included a vegan tier for the groom




Jewellery designed by Love, including an amethyst cuff.


Wedding dress designed by Mara Hoffman, a good friend of the bride. It is off-white chiffon dress with a faint mauve print and an open lattice back.

Southern sweet tea in homage to the groom’s roots.

Mason jars – daisy, astrantia, scabious, buplerium, honeysuckle, rosemary and thyme


Matching white gold wedding bands with turquoise inlay designed by Love.


Flowers – white and pink astrantia, scabious, buplerium, allium, honeysuckle and alchamilla mollis



Walking down the aisle with her mother.


The bride and groom exchanging vows under a birch chuppah covered in traditional Appalachian quilts—the ceremony was officiated by artist Francesco Clemente




Bouquet contains – aquiligia, clematis, daisy, astrantia, scabious, buplerium, honeysuckle.




Photography – Hannah Thomson

Brides Dress – Mara Hoffman

Grooms Suit – Billy Reid

Decor – the bride and groom with help from Fox Fodder Farm

Flowers – the bride and Fox Fodder Farm

Cake – a friend of the bride

Venue – Ruschmeyer’s, a 1950s summer camp turned resort in Montauk, Long Island

Accessories – the bride

Do you love it? Isn’t it wonderfully bohemian/folksy/hippie (can it be all three?). All the things we can’t really muster in this country.



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Franky //

Wow! I love this, not something I could have carried off myself, but beautiful nonetheless. The florals are stunning, and the bride’s dress actually reminds me of my Mum’s mexican wedding dress from the 70s.

Franky xxx

Celia (@BrideElectric) //

Sigh. This is why I read your blog Phoebe. This is what real weddings are all about. Not an ounce of flashy pretence, gimmicky bells or wazzy whistles – just pure, authentic romance. I adore her unique dress, the back pattern, her amazingly natural flowers and the matching rings. LOVE.

Nim //

ah, what a beauty. Pamela is beautiful and the flowers are just gorgeous. I agree about US weddings – they are in a class of their own. I’d LOVE to get married in my huge back yard (um, if I had one). Sigh

Michelle //

Wow so lovely. It’s an inspiration. They make such a lovely couple. What a way to throw a lovely ceremony and officiate the wedding. The Ice Tea and Cake also look wonderful as well.