Make lists, make lists of lists, put lists on walls, stick lists to fridges, tick off lists, then make more lists! I could not have planned my wedding if I hadn’t made lists. It was an essential tool in keeping track of people, my thoughts and ideas.
When you first sit down to write your guest list there are a few simple things you can abide by to help trim numbers. There will be exceptions but things can get out of hand. The “one year rule“. If you haven’t had a decent conversation in a year, dont invite them. If they haven’t been with their partner for a year, dont invite the partner. Keep the list to close family and friends, it makes it so much easier. Have a “B” list. When people drop out you can fill in the gaps from the B list. But don’t feel that you have to, there was a reason why they hadn’t made the cut first time round.
The most stressful part of my wedding planning was after the invites were sent out. People crawled out of the woodwork, asking why so and so wasn’t invited, or, could they please bring their new partner…stick to the rules…stick to the list!!! Don’t feel obliged. It’s your wedding.
This won’t be the last I mention of lists! Get your pen and paper ready…