Planning a wedding – no matter how much you try not to let it – will take over your entire life. Not one conversation will be had where someone doesn’t reference your ‘big day’ or ask the obligatory ‘how’s the wedding planning going?’ and then make you panic when you list all of the things you haven’t done yet and they gasp in horror and remind you that it’s not long away now! Teamed with that is the many evenings and weekends spent pinning, extensively researching real weddings on blogs and the endless scrolling through Etsy and eBay. What did I used to do with my time before I was planning a wedding? What will I do with myself after it’s all over? What did Wayne and I used to talk about before it was all guest lists, colour schemes, table plans and who hasn’t RSVPed? Does life actually exist after the 28th May 2016??
This is something that has played on my mind recently as I began the transition from a Lumley to a Fairnington with the renewal of my passport. Changing your surname has to be the biggest/weirdest thing to come to terms with when getting married. And there’s nothing like receiving your first letter addressed to Mrs Julia Fairnington to really hit home that this isn’t just a wedding – it’s a real, official, grown up marriage.
Don’t get me wrong I can’t wait to share the same surname as Wayne and be ‘the Fairningtons’ (even our Dalmatian Lola goes by Lumley at the Vets – I’ll have to remember to change that) But I have been a Lumley for almost 28 years – becoming a Fairnington is going to take a lot of getting used to. I suppose one perk will be not to be asked if I am a relation of Joanna Lumley (I’m not unfortunately) but the downside is none of my friends or family can actually correctly pronounce Fairnington – let alone spell it. God help the Reverand. The other is that Wayne has gained the unfortunate nickname of Fadge – which doesn’t have the same meaning down south as it does up north! Among our army friends I am already known as Mrs Fadge (much to the hilarity of my ‘civilian’ friends) however I have learned to love it over the years and embraced it so much that I am thinking of using #thefadgewedding as our wedding hashtag – too much?
So we are almost at the 100 day countdown and you’ll be pleased to know I have accomplished the three things I mentioned in my last post. Bridesmaid dresses – done. Mini-moon to Marbella – booked. Having our wedding rings designed – tick. I have also received a list of clothing that I need for my surprise hen do which consists of sportswear (oh dear!), swimwear, 1920’s dress and a coat! My bridesmaids and particularly my maid of honour Beth has put so much effort and planning into the weekend and I can’t wait to see what they have in store for me on my last night of freedom as a Lumley.