Life after marriage: What’s in a name?

Mr & Mrs

Planning a wedding – no matter how much you try not to let it – will take over your entire life. Not one conversation will be had where someone doesn’t reference your ‘big day’ or ask the obligatory ‘how’s the wedding planning going?’ and then make you panic when you list all of the things you haven’t done yet and they gasp in horror and remind you that it’s not long away now! Teamed with that is the many evenings and weekends spent pinning, extensively researching real weddings on blogs and the endless scrolling through Etsy and eBay. What did I used to do with my time before I was planning a wedding? What will I do with myself after it’s all over? What did Wayne and I used to talk about before it was all guest lists, colour schemes, table plans and who hasn’t RSVPed?  Does life actually exist after the 28th May 2016??

This is something that has played on my mind recently as I began the transition from a Lumley to a Fairnington with the renewal of my passport. Changing your surname has to be the biggest/weirdest thing to come to terms with when getting married. And there’s nothing like receiving your first letter addressed to Mrs Julia Fairnington to really hit home that this isn’t just a wedding – it’s a real, official, grown up marriage.

Don’t get me wrong I can’t wait to share the same surname as Wayne and be ‘the Fairningtons’ (even our Dalmatian Lola goes by Lumley at the Vets – I’ll have to remember to change that) But I have been a Lumley for almost 28 years – becoming a Fairnington is going to take a lot of getting used to. I suppose one perk will be not to be asked if I am a relation of Joanna Lumley (I’m not unfortunately) but the downside is none of my friends or family can actually correctly pronounce Fairnington – let alone spell it. God help the Reverand. The other is that Wayne has gained the unfortunate nickname of Fadge – which doesn’t have the same meaning down south as it does up north! Among our army friends I am already known as Mrs Fadge (much to the hilarity of my ‘civilian’ friends) however I have learned to love it over the years and embraced it so much that I am thinking of using #thefadgewedding as our wedding hashtag – too much?

So we are almost at the 100 day countdown and you’ll be pleased to know I have accomplished the three things I mentioned in my last post. Bridesmaid dresses – done. Mini-moon to Marbella – booked. Having our wedding rings designed – tick. I have also received a list of clothing that I need for my surprise hen do which consists of sportswear (oh dear!), swimwear, 1920’s dress and a coat! My bridesmaids and particularly my maid of honour Beth has put so much effort and planning into the weekend and I can’t wait to see what they have in store for me on my last night of freedom as a Lumley.

Saying ‘Yes!’ To the Dress | UK Wedding Blog


Dress shopping was the thing I was most looking forward to.

My sister, who got married back in 2007, has often expressed her desire to whip off her wedding ring and go back to bridal shops just to try on dresses again, so I wanted to savour every moment.

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Honeymooning at Sandals Emerald Bay, The Bahamas | UK WEDDING BLOG

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Oh, Sandals Emerald Bay. Where do I even begin?? Last week was such a dream.  If you’re after honeymoon inspiration, look no further. I make no apologies over the amount of photos and how long this post has got, it’s impossible not to tell you all about it. I want you to know everything, deciding on your honeymoon and all things wedding are some of your biggest decisions with a lot at stake emotionally as well as financially. We’ve also created our first ever travel vlog at the end of the post.

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Pink & Plum Valentines Date Night Makeup |UK Wedding Blog

So, following on from last week’s V-Day inspired beauty treats, here’s a Valentine’s date look which is fun, girly and great for whatever romantic evening you have planned. The beauty of these colours, especially the vibrant lip, is whilst they work really well on super fair skin like my model Flo, they’ll also work on deep and dark skin tones. Plums and pinks will really bring out green eyes, and the blue toned fuchsia lip will make teeth look pearly white too! There’s also a beautiful hair tutorial to accompany this from styling queen Flamingo Amy, which shows you to create the gorgeous Bardot inspired Beehive (even for bob length hair like this!) – a perfect soft, sexy style for date night. Make sure you take a peek here.

Here’s how to create this look.


Apply a smoothing primer such as Bare Minerals Prime Time to prepare skin for foundation, and ensure your base lasts as long as possible. Buff on thin layers of a long-lasting foundation – here I used Nars All Day Luminous Weightless Foundation in Mont Blanc, which has a fluid consistency but a full coverage. Once the product is worked into the skin and the foundation has “fused” with the skin, you can conceal any areas that you feel you need to. I used Jane Iredale Disappear Concealer in Light, a great full coverage concealer for which you only need to use a very small amount, as it’s super pigmented.

For a contour for a fair skin, I’m addicted to the Becca Lowlight Sculpting Perfector – it has no warmth (ie. red tones), and a very ashy tone, so is perfect for sculpting without adding warmth. I applied this in a “3” shape around Flo’s temples, into the hollows of her cheeks and under her chin with a concealer brush, and then blended and buffed with my foundation brush until any harsh lines had disappeared.

Apply a soft fluid blusher such as Daniel Sandler’s beautiful Watercolour Blush in Cherub ~ a dainty pastel pink which is gorgeous on fair and light skin tones. Set with a super fine finishing powder to increase wear and prevent shine – Bare Minerals Mineral Veil is perfect as it’s talc free, non drying and invisible on the skin.

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For the eyes begin by applying an eye primer – here I’ve used Estee Lauder Double Wear Stay in Place Eyeshadow Base to increase wear, prevent creasing and make colours as true as possible on the eyelid. Using a plum palette such as the Illamasqua Complement Palette, apply your lightest shadow up to the brow and on the inner half of the eyelid, and then work a medium colour onto the outer half. Using a blending brush, apply your darkest shade into the socked and a little under the lash line too. I used the Maybelline Lasting Gel Liner in Blackest Black to apply a winged liquid line, which elongates the eye for a cat-eye effect, and finished with lots of black mascara, and delicate Tanya Burr lashes in Date Night. Remember to keep eyes defined but soft – with such a strong colour on the lips we need to make sure we have balance!



Time for our statement lip! This is actually super simple – after lining the lips with Nars Costa Smelrada, I used OCC Lip Tar in Strumpet with a lip brush. Lip Tars are literally the most high shine, full pigment glosses I’ve ever used – they are a very cool product for those of you who love full pigment colour. I’d definitely recommend using a nice pointed lip brush to apply, to get a nice sharp lip line – plus a little product goes a long way!

To finish the look, Flamingo Amy created a beautiful, relaxed Bardot style beehive, with plenty of soft volume for a real undone, feminine style. Overall I’d say this look is kind of a take on Mad Men style, especially with the amazing colour of Flo’s hair!

I hope you love this look ~ don’t forget to let me know if there’s any makeup or hair looks you’d like to see in future posts!

Thanks to S. Pheasey Photography and Flamingo Amy. All makeup by moi.

Emily x

Picking the venue | uk wedding blog

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As soon as Mike and I got engaged we had a good idea about a location for getting married. We also decided early on that we didn’t want to wait too long to get married (I’m far too impatient for that!) and that we definitely wanted to do it this year, the only issue being that we really wanted a summer wedding (or as close to summer as we could get) and knew January was quite late to be booking one for the same year…I got in touch with the location anyway to see if they had any 2016 dates left and they came back with 17th September, perfect! It was meant to be.Read More

thirty under thirty #60 – The Valentines Edit | uk wedding blog

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Afternoon lovers. Some sickly sweet, valentines inspired shopping today. I WANT THAT COPPER MUG. I am actually coveting quite a lot in this edit. I love pink and gold, such a beautiful colour combination and it goes with black. And that is always a win. I hope the rest of your week is wonderful and you have a fun weekend planned? Anything here that’s taken your fancy?Read More

an eclectic, urban Christmas wedding in Chester | uk wedding blog

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So, one of my blog resolutions for 2016 was to get more diverse with my features. I put a call out on social media and was flooded with some gorgeous submissions. I really wanted to blog Mark and Paul’s wedding because on top of all the usual wedding planning stress, they had to accommodate a large proportion of their guests being deaf.

“One of the grooms, and a large proportion of the guests were hearing impaired, with half of the speeches from deaf members of the wedding party. Sign language interpreters were on hand to make sure everybody was fully involved throughout the day and the sign language choir was another brilliant touch that everyone could enjoy”.

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a grey and gold winter woodland wedding in Somerset | uk wedding blog

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Morning all, I hope you loved yesterdays wedding. We have another beauty today. The bride Robyn submitted this wedding herself (that is one of my favourite parts about blogging). Robyn is a SYGM devotee and when the submission came in describing her wedding as “containing a hot chocolate station, a pie bar, and shit tonnes of ugly crying” I knew it was going to be a yes. I have the best readers. You guys get me, and I get you. We make an excellent team.

My favourite part of this submission, is the sequence of photos of Robyn’s sister tying the back of her dress up, then bursting in to tears. Gets me every time I look at it.

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a rustic, blush pink, wine themed wedding (oh yes) | uk wedding blog

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Happy Monday lovely readers! I am so sorry for the blog absence last week. Thank you all for your lovely messages and being so understanding. I must admit, I find it so hard to switch off and had work guilt for 80% of the week but I am fully recovered (though awaiting a few test results) from kidney/bladder painfulness and a fully functioning human again. So excited to be back in to our little SYGM world and share pretty weddings, trends for 2016 and wedding advice this week. You can sign up to all of the #sygmbrides updates here. I will collate all of their posts in to one newsletter and send it out each Monday.

On to this mornings beautiful wedding! Claire and Rich look so relaxed and happy in their images, I think it is so important to find a photographer you connect with to make this happen.

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My Weekend Edit #22 | uk wedding blog

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Evening all! I am going to be honest, this week has not been great. You may have seen on my instagram that I had a very bad weekend. I am finally feeling better and up for blogging so majorly playing catch up this weekend. I hope this weeks update isn’t too boring, I’ve added in a bit of last week too. So this week was kidney stones, Netto, new beds, trashy tv and new shoes. Read More